Having a success mindset is one of the most valuable innermost strengths that we can possess. It’s an extremely positive way of thinking that provides us with the willpower and the determination to make serious changes in our lives, the foundation for lifestyle design.
Lifestyle design is generally thought of as an unconventional means to a great life and most would just love to get outside of the norm and design the lifestyle they truly want, but lifestyle design is not always outside of what we know to be everyday life.
What is it that holds you back?
Could it be your family, your job, a fear of failure, or could it simply be that many of you are just not able to grasp this much needed successful mindset?
Perhaps we’ve been conditioned by our upbringing to think small, think “normal”, the forty years and a gold watch type of thinking.
Everyone is different as we’re all individuals with our own way of thinking, but here are a few of my thoughts on how to begin the process of developing a successful mindset and keeping this as a part of your daily lives.
Define what success means to you.
This clearly has a different meaning to each individual and I think it’s so very important to understand within you, what you would consider success.
For some, it may mean building a multi-million dollar corporation, while others would be ecstatic to work for themselves and have financial independence and the freedom to work just a few hours each week without such a large income.
Until we understand what this means for each of us individually, developing a successful mindset and finding what you envision as success may be difficult.
Be grateful for what you have.
There’s a certain inner peace and solitude that comes with being grateful. When you look around the world and see the suffering of others you should feel very grateful to have avoided such a struggle in life. There’s always someone who’s worse off than you, so rather than feel like a failure because you haven’t been able to purchase that new expensive car of your dreams, be grateful that you had the freedom of thought to have that item on your mind in the first place.
Recognize negativity.
This seems so simple and most will say “of course I recognize negativity” but do you really? We’re sometimes blinded by friendships and fail to recognize the negativity associated with the relationship, dismissing it as “that’s just Joe being Joe” behavior. The fact is this, Joe is a negative thinker who brings that type of energy consistently, but because he’s a long-time friend, it’s accepted and excuses are made for his behavior.
Finding quiet time to really think and focus on your own negative thoughts will expose the negativity of others and make it clear that you need to distance yourself from this type of energy.
I made a conscious effort some years ago to keep this type of negativity away so I could concentrate on being a more successful person, and yes, I lost a few “friends” but when you see some of them today, it’s clear that it was or the best. For negative thinkers, the only thing that changes is the calendar.
Recognize myths and falsehoods.
Many successful people are considered “lucky”; haven’t you heard that said about someone you know? But who’s to say they didn’t make their own luck by being positive, believing in their own abilities, and taking action to change their quality of life?
As long as you have your physical and mental health, you’re empowered to make a better life for yourself, so your lack of action isn’t bad luck; it’s your failure to take advantage of the gifts you have.
People who consistently fail to motivate themselves into action are always quick to tell you how something will not work for you. How would they know when they’ve never really tried?
Take this environment we’re in now for example. How many times have you heard someone say that you can’t make lots of money online, or Jack Sprat’s program doesn’t work, or it’s a scam? The program didn’t work for them because they didn’t work the program.
Dare to dream.
Have the audacity to dream and want to be someone that you’re not today. Without a vision or a goal leading to an improved lifestyle you’re doomed to complacency.
Be a forward thinker, which is what successful minded individuals are. Yes, I had a great day today, now what about tomorrow?
Learn and then learn some more.
You can never have too much education as knowledge is power. No matter what your profession is, you’ll never know all that there’s to know about the topic. Technologies advance and you’ll have to advance your education to keep pace.
Take some calculated chances.
Doing the same thing that everyone else has done won’t likely advance your cause beyond that of those before you. Take a little risk occasionally and do something different. Yes, there may come a time when you will hitch your wagon to the wrong horse, but at least you were bold enough to try.
Wrap up.
Heaven knows I’ve taken some calculated risks in my time, and have lost my shirt to boot, but it’s these types of situations that help you grow and make you even more determined to be the successful person that you know you are capable of being.
Without a successful mindset it’s already game over. Why exist without ever having giving it your all?
As a positive thinker, I’m positive that you’ll share your thoughts below. What can you share or add to this conversation?
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Hi Jimi,
Positive thinking is a key point for a successful mindset, from my point of view. You are never sure if you will be successful in a new project. So, your positive thinking plays an important roll here.
I think taking action is also an important characteristic of the successful mindset. Even if they are small, actions will take you closer to your goals.
Isaac – Life is simpler´s last blog ..When will you get what you want?
Hey Isaac.
I find it best to be positive and confident in your abilities to accomplish things. Going into a project with a positive outlook is half the battle, as opposed to being totally uncertain and hoping for the best with your fingers crossed.
Then of course there is the action component. Failing to take action to advance your position toward you ultimate goal is what occurs all to often. Procrastination plays a role in this, as many will wait until tomorrow to begin but then, tomorrow never comes.
Thanks for your feedback, man.
Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Case Study Review – Lanzarote Information
Ah, this I like… a nice, well thought out article without any numbers in it!
Now if I only knew what I wanted to be successful at, I’d be quids in with this advice!
Stuart´s last blog ..The Griffin’s Flight – KJ Taylor
Hello Stuart, how are you?

I’m glad you like the post. Surely you have some ideas about your future success.
Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Case Study Review – Lanzarote Information
Jimi,
I love it when I come across posts that echo the way I am. I am constantly banging on about why you should be aiming higher than you currently are. Sky is not the limit.
It’s easier today for us to have our dreams with the internet, be gratefull for what you have, but if you want more, be prepared to work for it and believe you can get it!
J
TheInfoPreneur´s last blog ..Why Being Normal Is The New Extraordinary
My man James,
it’s always great to have you in the house.
You’ve hit the nail on the head, brother. There is no limit on success and those who continue to raise thier games and work hard will find that success sooner than they may have imagined.
Today’s internet is loaded with opportunities. The problem for many is that there is this general expectation that things are suppose to be easy using computers and the arsenal of tools available today.
We know better, it’s definitely no easy. Hell, even writing a post can be difficult at times, let alone trying to rake in a sustainable income while building an internet empire, but it is all doable. It just takes more than buying and reading a $39 ebook.
Thanks for visiting, man.
Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Case Study Review – Lanzarote Information
Hi Jimi,
This is great stuff. You cover a lot in here. There’s a lot that we need to mentally do in order to be successful. I think it starts with defining success and then a dream. From there you need to build on that foundation. One can’t stop learning and must always be prepared to take chances. On top watch out for those negative people.
I think I just summarized the post. Lol!
Dare to dream is the key element to this. Visualizing what you want is the best strategy to get it.
Mike CJ´s last blog ..A guest post. On guest posting.
I could not agree more, Mike.
Let your dreams motivate you to succeed.
Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Case Study Review – Lanzarote Information
Great job, Gordie!

This really does boil down to some rather simplistic approaches. The issue is that many just cannot seem to get started moving in the right direction.
Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Case Study Review – Lanzarote Information
The biggest change I made was to stop looking for things to blame and start holding myself accountable for everything. You can’t wait for your dreams to intersect with your reality…you have to make your way there through hard work.
Nathan Hangen´s last blog ..The Jack Bauer Guide to Being a Bad Ass
Well stated, Nathan.
I once waited for the right time to come earlier in life. Well that time never showed up until I got off my duff and forced the issue.
Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Case Study Review – Lanzarote Information
I thrive on positivity – the way I see, I have no choice because the alternative is too grim. However, because I’m so positive, people often give me weird looks and often dismiss my ideas – too bad for them. One day while driving in the car, my husband was complaining about how much gas our van guzzles daily – it was early morning and I just said, “Didn’t you think of that when we bought this van, why complain about it now – what good is this negativity doing us now? This van gets us from A to B and for that I’m grateful.” Do you want to know what he said?

He responded, “You must have a recording of Bobby McFarrin’s Don’t Worry; Be Happy playing in your mind 24 hours a day! Why do you always try to be so positive?”
He thinks I’m a little peculiar. It actually irritates some people that I’m so positive, but I think I have no choice – I’ve got too many dreams…I can’t stop now just because people think I’m crazy
Kiesha @ Highly Favored´s last blog ..A Christian’s Guide to Social Media Interactions
Hi Kiesha!

Thanks for coming by and reading the post. It’s always good to see you.
“… I can’t stop now just because people think I’m crazy” I can relate to that, although some of my folks may be half right. LOL
Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Case Study Review – Lanzarote Information
For me negativity is the worst. I consider myself a relatively optimistic person and make no bones about the success I’ve achieved.
I guess the negative people (haters) make every accomplishment that much sweeter

Roschelle´s last blog ..Yesterday Was the Beginning at the End
Hi Roschelle.
Your viewpoint is a good one. Keeping those negative vibes and the folks that bring them continually at bay can be a chore, but in the end positive thinkers always win out.
Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Case Study Review – Lanzarote Information
I sure dare to dream, but it’s the fears and unsecurity that hold me back. And if one loves to learn and plan things like I do, it’s dangerous to get too attached on learning… As unless you take action, it’s like running forward with a bungee attached to your back. And to break that bungee, you need to take risks = something I really gotta work on.
Thanks for a great post Jimi – and kudos for the cool new header to all of you

Antti Kokkonen´s last blog ..Blog Like an Expert in 31 Days
Hi Antti.
You’re right about learning and taking action. It requires a balance between the two in order to avoid stagnating one’s growth.
I am sure you will do fine, with your attention to detail.
Gordie designed the header and did a fine job I might add.
Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Case Study Review – Lanzarote Information
Hey Jimi!
“Perhaps we’ve been conditioned by our upbringing to think small, think “normal”, the forty years and a gold watch type of thinking.”
This seems like exactly the point Seth Godin was trying to get across in his latest book Linchpin. Our schools and the “factory” mindset we grew up in condition ourselves to take away a lot of things including being an “artist.”
Tanner´s last blog ..“Survival of the Fittest” Social Media, Social Darwinism, and Business
Hi Tanner,
That book sounds like something I need to get a copy of, and will.
It is true, we’ve been conditioned to think within an established boundary and anything outside of that is seen as radical.
Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Case Study Review – Lanzarote Information
Lately I have been concentrating on how to even make my site better. Yes it is true that sometimes I have full of negatives in terms of making my site earn a decent traffic but I guess each one of us has this mindset at the beginning of our respective careers.
Rian´s last blog ..There is no Facebook Theme and Facebook Layout Available
Hi Rian.
Thanks for visiting, I appreciate it.
We all have those moments of uncertainty about blogging, particularly in the early part of our career. Continuing to write good content and keeping to a decent post schedule will cure that as time goes on.
How long have you ben blogging?
Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Case Study Review – Lanzarote Information
Jimi, I don’t think I have a conscious mindset for success but if I feel deeply about something that success just seems to happen. Can it be sub-conscious, genetic or am I just bloody minded?
Kevin Tea´s last blog ..Can Google’s Chrome Suite Crack The Corporate Market?
Kevin, you ARE success.

Jimi Jones´s last blog ..How to Get Rid of Writer’s Block
Very interesting post Jimi. On a success level people are typically held back usually do to themselves. It is not the market, or another person, or some other external influence. It’s them I am chuckling a bit as you write about motivation in this post. I just posted on my blog an observation and methodology that runs in parallel to your thoughts but is more “under the covers”. Any mindset requires you to be able to push through problems, fears, lack of motivation, etc…That is worth all of us exploring more fully. Nice job here.//Marc
Marc Winitz´s last blog ..Be Hard On Yourself – The Zen of “How”
Hi Marc,

thanks for the comment, I appreciate it.
I will check your post out as well, sounds interesting.
Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Social Media Branding – Tips To Break From The Crowd
I never do anything without believing I can succeed! If you don’t believe in yourself, who will?
Financial Samurai´s last blog ..The Most Important Tip For Job Hoppers: Join People, Not Firms
You are complete correct there.
Having a level of confidence is half the battle.
Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Social Media Branding – Tips To Break From The Crowd
I like that one of the first thing you mention is that success means different things to different people. Too many bloggers just equate success with having a successful business/site.
Anne Moss´s last blog ..The Thesis Theme – First Impressions
Hello Anne,
true, it is all about the money for some and that is too bad. They are missing out on many of the other wonderful aspects of the online life.
Jimi Jones´s last blog ..The Benefits of Blogging
This was a great article, Jimi
‘It’s all in your head’ rings true. If we think we can do something, odds are that we will figure out a way to do it. If you can’t do something, then you won’t. If you don’t believe you deserve to be rich or successful or (whatever) then you will subconsciously sabotage yourself and you won’t be rich or successful or (whatever). I think the key is to change your mindset and believe that you are a worthy person and can have/be/do everything you want in life.
Karen
Karen´s last blog ..Why It’s Never Too Late For Your Dreams To Come True
Hi Karen,
thanks for coming by.
It really does at start within ourselves, believing that we can accomplish what we set out to do. Take blogging for instance. The only thing that separate many from the highly successfu bloggers is the fact that they have worked really hard for years and made things happen for themselves. There is no magic to it, just get out there and shape your future.
Jimi Jones´s last blog ..The Benefits of Blogging
Excellent post. You bring up some valuable points. Negativity is part of success, but many people let negativity hold them back.
Rose´s last blog ..Why People use Twitter
Hi Rose and thank you.
Negativity does affect people in different ways, but allowing it to get in the way of progress is self-defeating, something that just cannot be.
Jimi Jones´s last blog ..The Benefits of Blogging
I agree that having the right mindset is very important. When I first started my online marketing business, I refuse to give up. Even when my first few sites blew up in my face, I continue to work on it. Over time, you gain little success here and there. Your confidence and your income will increase. Soon, you will find yourself successful at what you are doing.
Frank´s last blog ..Cheap honeycomb cellular blinds: where to buy
Hello Frank!
Being committed and having the will power to stick it out is the key to finding success online. There are no overnight paths to riches. Like a regular offline business, it requires a lot of building and it all starts with the proper mindset.
Thanks for visiting.
Jimi Jones´s last blog ..How To Use Google’s Wonder Wheel to Find a Niche
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