Lessons From Customer Services For Life.

by Ben

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When I left university, I went to work as a fitness instructor in a local gym. It was my first ever real job and it was pretty good. Everyday I’d go to work, help people meet their fitness goals and interact with a wide variety of individuals. It always amazed me how friendly people were when I was positive towards them, regardless of how bad their day may have been.

After about eighteen months, I got the chance to go and work in a big leisure center on a holiday park near to where I lived. This took me out of the gym and put me behind a counter helping holiday makers to organize and book all of the activities that they wanted to do during their stay. It was good fun to start with (most days).

As time went by, I was given more responsibility until the point where I became a center supervisor. This meant that it was my job not only to help people organize their holiday but also to ensure that complaints were handled properly and that the building was immaculate 24/7.

If you’ve read my post, Surround Yourself With Great People To Be Successful you’ll know that after a while I wanted more and that I started to look for something better. Eventually I found a way out of the rut that I’d got myself into and moved into something more meaningful and rewarding.

I’m grateful for the jobs that I have had though. The one thing I’m most grateful for is the skills I learned about social interaction that have helped to make me the person I am today. My time working in the customer service industry has fundamentally changed my view on human interaction and it’s a lesson I wish that everyone could learn at some point in their lives.

Smile.

I enjoyed my time working behind the counter at the leisure center. There were always a few of us there at any one time, so we’d regularly have fun and kept ourselves entertained during the quieter periods. One thing I was always conscious of when I was running the desk, was to smile at customers as they came to book something.

I learned this lesson quickly when my manager pulled me to one side one day to tell me I was a “miserable git” when I was having a bad day and that I should always try to smile when at work. She called it “a work smile.” At the time I thought she was bonkers but did it anyway. I soon realized she was right.

When a person interacts with you whether you know them or not, they don’t want your baggage and hang ups from the day. Your customers don’t deserve to experience your bad mood. It’s not their fault.

Smiling at someone does 3 things;
1) It makes you feel a bit better.
2) It makes the person you’re interacting with feel a bit better.
3) It sets up the interaction you’re about to have, whatever that may be.

Whenever I smiled at someone as I greeted them, no matter what they were coming to me for (a booking, a question or even a complaint), the resulting interaction always ended well. It still does. I bet it will for you, too.

Say “Please” and “Thank you”.

No matter what I used to ask for at the Leisure Center or who I used to ask, I would always say “please” and “thank you”. It’s common courtesy yet many of us in our day to day lives don’t take the time or make the effort to say it.

For me, saying “please” and “thank you” is about respect. If you have respect for someone then you’re more likely to ask for something politely and thank them for their help. It frustrates me when I’m served by someone in a shop and they don’t use “please” and “thank you”. It makes me feel worthless.

You should respect everyone you come into contact with in your life, because by doing so, you’ll make the world a better place. Imagine the effect on society if everyone did that.

Do everything you can to help.

I was watching a video by personal development guru, Tony Robbins on YouTube the other day and he was talking about how “wealth is about the value you put back into society, not how much you own.” It made me question myself and I wondered what value I put back into society. I’m quite humbled by the fact that in my current job, by helping young people to grow and realize their dreams, I’m putting value back in to the system and not just taking it out.

We had a guy at the leisure center who always came top of every service chart we had. His till always made the most money (no matter where I put him on the six till desk) and he always got positive comments from guests. His secret was simple. He always did everything he could to help people.

If you go out of your way to help people, that help and positive energy you generate will come back to you. If you make sure that you focus on other people’s needs and not just your own, you’ll find that you’ll grow and develop in ways that you could never have imagined.

Is that all, sir?

Look around you today as you go about your day and notice what level of customer service and human interaction you get. Is it good? Is it woeful? How does that level of service and interaction make you feel?

We’re always told that you should “treat people as you expect to be treated yourself.” But how many of us actually do it? Try to raise the level of customer care and human interactions that you give and watch them positivity flow right back to you. Everyone wants to feel good, right?

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1 Ben Lumley February 9, 2010 at 2:28 pm

Just want to say a big thank you Gordie for letting me write for you and for Lifestyle Design For You.
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2 Gordie February 9, 2010 at 3:55 pm

No worries, my friend. Great to have you aboard. :)

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3 SallyBeam | Self Help Friend .com February 9, 2010 at 3:06 pm

This reminds me of one wealth lesson I’ve learned from Wealth Dynamics seminar with Roger Hamilton. He mentions that Wealth success formula is this:
WEALTH = VALUE x LEVERAGE.

Thanks for the sharing.
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4 Ben Lumley February 9, 2010 at 5:25 pm

I like that Sally, thanks for sharing
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5 Tanner February 9, 2010 at 3:43 pm

Hey Ben, first of all welcome to The Team!

Second, nice post on touching on some essential etiquette people often overlook. Smiling is huge in so many ways. Honestly, sit there and if you are ever down, smile and see how you feel. Our brains are wired throughout life that when we smile it releases positive emotions.

I strongly believe in firm gentleman’s etiquette too.
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6 Ben Lumley February 9, 2010 at 3:53 pm

Thanks Tanner

Yeah it’s so sad to see people going around without a smile on their face. The power of the smile is huge!
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7 Anne Moss February 9, 2010 at 5:53 pm

You’re right, these are good tips for interacting with people in general, not just customer service. I wish more people would be using them.
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8 Ben Lumley February 9, 2010 at 6:03 pm

Yeah please and thank you is the big one for me. So frustrating when they are high on other people’s list of priorities.

Thanks for commenting Anne :)
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9 Moon Hussain February 9, 2010 at 11:03 pm

I’m not a hot-headed person but if I approach customer service and I get treated with a negative attitude, it’s over. As much as you might hate your job, it IS your job to treat your customers well, and a smile will probably put your clients at ease.

That works in general as well :)
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10 Ben Lumley February 9, 2010 at 11:10 pm

Yeah completely Moon!

Exactly the same approach in general life too
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11 Dave Doolin February 10, 2010 at 12:35 am

It’s true: the body influences the emotion! If you can make your body smile, you will feel better.
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12 Ben Lumley February 10, 2010 at 12:43 am

Hey Dave – so true motion influences emotion. Perfectly put.
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13 Jimi Jones February 10, 2010 at 3:49 am

My man Ben,
you know we’re glad to have you sir.
Great points raised in this very nice piece. Smiling is free, makes you wonder why so many find this to be a difficulty. The positive energy that comes from this is powerful.

Customer service can be tough at times, but a smile has a disarming effect on many who may have otherwise brought a lot of negativity to the conversation. As they say, disagree without being disagreeable.

Enjoyed the post, man. ;-)
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14 Ben Lumley February 10, 2010 at 3:51 am

Thanks Jimi!

Yeah smiling is such an easy thing to do that will change your mind and other people’s at the same time. Doesn’t cost a dime.
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15 Armen Shirvanian February 10, 2010 at 4:24 am

Hi Ben.

Going out of your way to help folks sure is a cool thing. It usually takes quite a bit of energy from us, but then the inner feeling we get is generally worth it, not to mention the possible future returns. Most don’t do it, though, so it remains a nice opportunity.

Saying “thank you” is large. People don’t always know what you are appreciative of until you say this in regards to something.

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16 Ben Lumley February 10, 2010 at 4:34 am

Yeah I think good “customer service” in life is something that not only gives you a good feeling of well being but also opens up the potential for future opportunities.

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17 TheInfoPreneur February 10, 2010 at 6:13 am

Awesome colab guys, looks like you have a new member of the team Gordie!

Well done guys
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18 Gordie February 10, 2010 at 10:16 am

Cheers, James. Yeah, added Ben and Oscar this month. Ten dudes is perfect. :)

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19 Ralph February 10, 2010 at 6:58 am

Never worked customer service full time but I have from time to time had to deal with pissed off people. Many times these were completely confused about something and totally wrong in expecting that operating practices could be changed just for them. I learned that instead of insisting that they recognize that I couldn’t do anything for them and getting rid of them, I would just listen to what they were thinking and being interested and concerned about their problems. Many times they were happy just to get something off their chests and their anger was dissipated when they were finally done. Often they stopped being angry. People appreciate being listened to.
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20 Ben Lumley February 10, 2010 at 3:43 pm

Yeah I think this is a true in all walks off life Ralph. When we listen to people the feel appreciated. Great point – thanks for sharing
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21 Isaac - Life is simpler February 10, 2010 at 9:18 am

Hi Ben,
I currently work on customer service. Something I also do when I will talk to a customer is to start a small, easy, not related to work talk. This way you give a friendly perception of yourself. You can apply that to everyday life. If you show a friendly attitude, you will be received with a similar answer.
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22 Ben Lumley February 10, 2010 at 3:44 pm

Thanks Issac – You’re completely right “You can apply that to everyday life. If you show a friendly attitude, you will be received with a similar answer.”
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23 Stuart February 10, 2010 at 9:31 am

I love good customer service, but I despise sycophantic gits who are determined to ooze all over you – as if it will help them make a sale.

The ideas you have put forward are great, but they’re just sadly lacking in my part of the World.

Great article – hope there’s more to follow.
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24 Ben Lumley February 10, 2010 at 3:47 pm

Hey Stuart – glad you like the post. There definitely more to follow.

I think the idea of applying good customer service to life is lacking all over the place – certainly is around my way too, which is one of the motivations behind the post really.
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25 Stuart February 10, 2010 at 4:22 pm

Let’s just say that China is definitely fast becoming the last bastion of piss poor service then!
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26 Marc | Black Belt Guide February 10, 2010 at 2:01 pm

Ben, this is just a good life policy no matter what you do. It doesn’t matter if it is retail customer service, sales or venture capital – people naturally gravitate towards those they want to be around, something your post shows off both in word and example.//Marc

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27 Ben Lumley February 10, 2010 at 3:48 pm

Thanks for your kind words Marc.

People do gravitate to those they want to be around and who treat others well – it’s why I come to your site a lot now :)
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28 Adrian Swinscoe March 23, 2010 at 3:01 am

Hi Ben,
Love the article. Customer service is a favourite topic of mine and I think you’re suggestion about smiling is bang on.

Interestingly, however, a ‘fake’ smile can do more damage than a real one….and there is a real one…check this out….http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Smile#Duchenne_smile
….real smiles come from the soul!

Adrian
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29 Ben March 24, 2010 at 6:27 am

Hey Adrian

Yeah fake smile are easy to spot. You need to be completely genuine in life and people will be more receptive to you.

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30 Matthew Needham March 24, 2010 at 5:05 am

Just because you’re having a bad day doesn’t mean everyone else is. You can choose your attitude and choose to have a good day.
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31 Ben March 24, 2010 at 6:28 am

Choice is the right word Matthew

You choose your focus and choose what outcome you’d like to have in any area of life.
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